Sex is a Skill
I am always amazed at how many people do not realize that yes, SEX REQUIRES SKILL! It does not come naturally. Nothing does, except maybe breathing. When we come into…
Unpacking Santa and Consent
I was walking in Pasadena yesterday and happened upon a local holiday fair, with live music, food, lots of people and a good long line to sit on Santa’s lap.…
What Sexual Empowerment Really Means
People are often confused by what I do when I tell them I am a Sexual Empowerment Coach and Sexuality Educator. The other day someone said, “Oh, so you do…
What’s a Sex Coach?
When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then,…
The Undeniable Connection Between Fear & Sexuality
Most of us learn about sexuality in the context of fear and were taught to be afraid of sexuality on some level: you might get hurt. You might get an…
The Confusion of Desire
What does it mean to desire, to “own your wanting”? What gets in the way of owning it, of saying “yes, this is what I want and I won’t feel bad…
The Greatest Sexual Lie Ever Told
I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is…
How to Kill Your Sex Life
It’s easy to get stuck sexually and just stay there for years. I recently heard from a client who has been so stuck not enjoying sex and avoiding it for…
What Gets in the Way of Sexual Confidence?
I’ve spent years studying how confidence works and I’ve found it’s the thing everyone wants the most and yet people don’t know how to develop it and often don’t recognize…
What if Sex Were Like Playing Music?
In Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power & a World Without Rape, Thomas Macaulay Millar– wrote an astute essay about our typical commodification model of sex and how problematic it…
