The Confusion of Desire
What does it mean to desire, to “own your wanting”? What gets in the way of owning it, of saying “yes, this is what I want and I won’t feel bad…
The Greatest Sexual Lie Ever Told
I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is…
How to Kill Your Sex Life
It’s easy to get stuck sexually and just stay there for years. I recently heard from a client who has been so stuck not enjoying sex and avoiding it for…
What Gets in the Way of Sexual Confidence?
I’ve spent years studying how confidence works and I’ve found it’s the thing everyone wants the most and yet people don’t know how to develop it and often don’t recognize…
4 Common Reasons People Have Affairs (and How to Recover Afterward)
As a sexual empowerment coach, I get to hear a lot about people’s private sexual lives and the things they don’t usually talk about—not even to their partners. Many people…
3 Myths About Sex that Keep Couples Disconnected
Because sexuality is so personal and private, we don’t talk enough about it. Even in this age when we can pull up all kinds of info about sex on the…
It’s Not About You
The communication blunders that happen on an everyday basis are truly astounding. Ever step back and watch two people get themselves into an argument that could have been completely…
What if Sex Were Like Playing Music?
In Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power & a World Without Rape, Thomas Macaulay Millar– wrote an astute essay about our typical commodification model of sex and how problematic it…
